bpdcake:

tips for people who have friends with bpd:

- if you take a long time to text back please let us know it is not personal.

- if we ask you if you hate us, please do not get angry (this can scare us and make us more paranoid). please calmly reassure us that you do not hate us.

- if you ever get tired of a friend with bpd, please do not just ignore them. odds are they will either be extremely worried or concerned about your well-being or they will think they did something terrible and now you hate them. assure them that you don’t hate them, and then tell them that you don’t have the time or resources to continue the relationship. please assure them that it is not personal.

- we may seem obsessive or over-protective at times but we really mean well. we want to make sure you are okay. if you don’t like the constant checking-in, please let us know.

the main idea is to please be straightforward with us from the beginning and understand that we can be really kind and supportive friends, you just need to be patient sometimes. i understand that some people do not work well with borderlines - that is okay. we aren’t forcing you to be our friends. all we ask is that you are gentle and honest.